|
|
|
AUGUST MONTHLY MUSINGS NEWSLETTER
To muse: To wonder and marvel; to become absorbed in mindful, reflective meditation provoking thoughtful inspiration to unlock doors, walk through them with ease, experience the world of possibilities, and create positive life changes.
Having the ability to bounce back easily from misfortune and/or change and thrive.
"TWO THUMBS UP" Book of the Month
The Woman's Book of Resilience 12 Qualities To Cultivate
by Beth Miller, Ph.D.
According to Beth Miller, Ph.D. in her book, The Woman's Book of Resilience 12 Qualities To Cultivate, women can thrive through good times and bad by learning and practicing the following qualities: vulnerability, meaning, interdependence, connection, parts, needs, gifts and talents, limits and boundaries, forgiveness, humor, persistence, and suffering. Miller writes, "Becoming resilient is not an easy process, and it has no definitive ending. It takes hard work, perseverence,
willingness, and desire.....you do possess the strength of a reed, the composure to ride out even the mightiest of storms, the willingness and ability to give way so that the waves may roll over your head."
UPCOMING TELECLASSES
6 week teleclass Book Club Series using Beth Miller's resiliency book. Join me and we'll gather by phone for an hour weekly to discuss Beth's book.
Dates: Mondays, Sept. 18 - Oct. 23
Time: Noon, CT, USA
Cost of class: $90 for the 6 week series; cost of the phone calls
Cost of book: $11.02 from www.Amazon.com
Payment can be made by check or credit card.
CONTACT ME TO REGISTER FOR THIS CLASS.
Register by Wednesday, August 30th.
4-week teleclass, How To Manage Stress Before It Manages You. One hour weekly for each class.
Dates: Wednesdays, September 20 - October 11
Time: Noon, CT, USA
Cost of class: $60 for the 4-week series which includes workshop informational folders; cost of the phone calls.
Payment can be made by check or credit card.
CONTACT ME TO REGISTER FOR THIS CLASS.
Register by Wednesday, August 30th.
These workshops are also available in person locally including Southern, MN and the Twin Cities, MN metro area. Please contact me for further information and scheduling.
LOCAL WORKSHOPS
 You don't want to miss this one. Join me at the historic Archer House English Tea Room in charming Northfield, MN for a day filled with tea, food, and fun. The menu for the day will include morning rolls and coffee, a Queen Victoria luncheon (tea, soup, salad, lemonade, sweets, cream/jam/scones, finger sandwiches) and afternoon coffee and cookies. Go to www.bittersweeteatery.biz to view the English Tea Room.
The workshop topic for the day is How to Upgrade Yourself by Building a Strong Personal Foundation. Do you want to experience a self-paced personal development program in order to learn, grow, and get more fulfillment out of your life? How would you like to add some zest to your life by learning about 10 areas that will help you stand strong, attract the kind of people and circumstances you want in your life, and take yourself to the next level personally and/or professionally? Then, get yourself ready to play and contact me to register.
Date: Saturday, October 14, 2006
Time: 9:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m.
Location: Archer House, Bittersweet Eatery English Tea Room, Division Street, Northfield, MN, 55057
Register by: Friday, September 8th
Cost: $99 per person
Register right away as there is limited seating and this Tea Room workshop fills up quickly. CONTACT ME for further information and TO REGISTER for this FUN-FILLED event.
Northfield, MN Community Education Sponsored Workshops:
Topic: How to Manage Stress Before It Manages You
Dates: Tuesdays, September 19 - October 10
Time: 7:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m.
Location: To be determined
Cost: $39.00 per person
Topic: Upgrade Yourself: Build A Strong Personal Foundation
Dates: Tuesdays, October 17 - November 28 (no class October 31 and November 7)
Time: 7:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m.
Location: To be determined
Cost: $49 per person
Topic: Clear the Clutter - Make Way for Your Life!
Dates: Tuesdays, December 5 - December 19
Time: 7:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m.
Location: To be determined
Cost: $39 per person
For further workshop descriptions, workshop locations, and to register, go to:
HERE'S THE DEAL...
"You have to choose the voice you are going to trust. You can't listen to everyone." - Alice Hoffman, American writer.
Trust yourself. Listen to your intuition. Build up your resiliency reserves.
"Resiliency Brings Her Home To A New Normalcy" by Coach Deborah
Have you ever been shaken down to the depths of your soul and every inch of your being? Here's such a story.
There's a woman who brought herself back from the depths of despair. She experienced the worst kind of grief - the loss of a child. It was a nightmare when she accidentally ran over her young son with her vehicle and he died. Confusion and shock. Disbelief and heartbreak. She was vulnerable and fragile, ready to shatter into tiny pieces.
Consumed with pain, seated at her husband's side, sobbing at her son's grave, her world spins uncontrollably then turns in to a slow-motion blur. She feels detached and weak. Seconds drag on. Time stands still. Then, with mixed emotions, she looks upward and watches all the balloons fly high in to the blue, sunlit sky in memory of her son. Her boy loved balloons. At the same moment, the train whistles blow their way through town. Her boy loved trains.
A local newspaper printed a story that some say tried to paint a slanted picture of the incident when it was, indeed, an accident. People talked as people do. People wrote letters to the editor filling the editorial pages extending the pain for she and her family. Even in the midst of this turmoil and stress, she surprised herself. She began to take care of her and her family's needs, she surrounded herself with a positive support system (including grief counseling), and walked in her integrity and began to create a "new normalcy." Of course, it wasn't painless or easy and it didn't happen overnight. Good things take time. Healing takes time. She had more than enough time.
How did this mother overcome such a devastating loss? She faced it head on using her
resiliency reserves. You see, before the accident, she had the ability "to stand alone, independent in thought and action," live authentically, and use her sense of humor. People enjoyed her company. She knew who she was, what she was about and she lived life her own way. She never gave up on anything before the accident and she wasn't going to give up now. She had another child to raise, a husband to love, and elderly parents to help care for. Some days she took a step backward; some days she took two steps forward. She created a new dance and bounced back one step at a time, one day at a time.
Today she lives in a lovely, rural home with her husband and teenage daughter. Chickens run through the yard, and the cats scatter and the dog barks when visitors arrive. You can see the sheep in their pens. Tessa's a master gardener. Flowers and vegetables consume the rich soil. Everyday, she thinks of her boy and remembers how he dragged his blankie everywhere he went. The neatly folded blanket now provides precious comfort. The dark, heavy days have been replaced with re-discovered laughter. She gives herself permission to enjoy life, to live life, to feel alive. Her faith sees her through. She's been blessed with resilience. One step at a time, she walks on with a new, awakened sense of hope, a new normalcy.
*The quotation used in this true story is from Beth Moore's book.*
BY THE WAY...
Here are more great books about resilience:
-Dancing Backwards in High Heels by Patricia O'Gorman, Ph.D
-The Art of Resilience by Carol Orsborn
Websites:
The Resiliency Center
Resiliency Institute
Lessons for Living
Global Resiliency Network
DID YOU KNOW...
There's a personality assessment called the Enneagram Inventory that you can complete online. Take the 72 question inventory to discover your dominant personality style. Check it out. What's your personality number?
Enneagram Books and Websites:
The Enneagram by Helen Palmer
The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Don Richard Ruso and Russ Hudson
Personality Types by Don Richard Ruso and Russ Hudson
the enneagram by Maria Beesing, O.P.; Robert J. Nogosek, C.S.C.; Patrick H. O'Leary , S.J.
The Book of Enneagram Prayers by Kathleen M. Henry
Profiles of the Enneagram, Ways of Coming Home To Yourself by Patrick J. and Dee Dee Aspell
www.helenpalmer.com
www.enneagraminstitute.com
www.aspell.com
GIVE YOURSELF A "ME TIME" MOMENT
-light a candle and take time to pray or meditate
-take a luxurious bubble bath
-read a good book while drinking an espresso
-take a yoga class
-walk along a lake
-watch your favorite movie, twice
-write in your journal
-plant some flowers
-grab your camera and take nature photos
-make yourself a fruit smoothie - and savor every sip
RECIPE
Fruit Smoothie
Ingredients: 1 cup blueberries
2 apples - peeled, cored and chopped
1 1/2 cups raspberries
3/4 cup seedless grapes
3 tbsp. white sugar
1 tray of ice cubes
Instructions: Blend all ingredients in a blender until smooth.
Pour into glasses and serve.
Makes 4 servings.
Calories: 141; Fat: 0.8g;
Carbohydrates: 35.7g; Cholesterol: 0g
ON A WING AND A PRAYER
"When you've done everything you know how to do, just keep on standing firm." Ephesians 6:13
In his book, Your Best Life Now 90 Devotions for Living at Your Full Potential, Joel Osteen writes, "...if you can't get up on the outside, get up on the inside!"....You can keep on getting up in your heart, mind, and will....Just keep standing up on the inside."
Site Links
Home Page
| About the Coach
| Services
| Fees
| Monthly Musings
Clean Sweep Program
| Testimonials
| About Coaching
| Workshops
|
|
More Links:
Contact me
|
|
|
